I have a hard time in the moment from being passive-aggressive, thats when i say things or the way i say them and afterwords i am ashamed or aware of my deficit.

I can practice the three C's

1.  Catch It
2. Check It
3. Change It

Or Pause then pause and think and think about what I can say.

I will try to be positively self assertive in my interpersonal relations with my famliy, peers, and employees.